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12 Steps Reframed
by Don Hadlock
  1. Admitted we were powerless over alcohol - that our lives had become unmanageable.

    I keep acknowledging that I had lost connection with the part of me that was more than my addiction.

  2. Came to believe that a Power greater than ourselves could restore us to sanity.

    I am deciding to perceive that my connection to the wholeness of the universe is a path toward remembering that I am more than my addiction. It is a path where I make choices not dictated by my addiction.

  3. Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God, as we understood Him.

    I am deciding to accept and allow myself to embrace a wholeness that exceeds, yet contains, separateness and to live in harmony with these two perspectives.

  4. Made a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves.

    I choose to allow an unconditional commitment to living in complete and microscopic truth with myself as well as within my relationships with others. And to a continued commitment to choose to take complete responsibility for my thoughts and actions.

  5. Admitted to God, to ourselves and to another human being the exact nature of our wrongs.

    I am deciding to invite others to witness my commitment to my truth and to my taking complete responsibility for my thoughts and actions.

  6. Were entirely ready to have God remove all these defects of character.

    I am deciding to journey towards getting better at transcending the acting-out of my wounds, and to allow others to support me on this journey.

  7. Humbly asked Him to remove our shortcomings.

    With much self-compassion, I am forgiving and accepting of the self-abuse that I directed toward others, with a continued desire to re-decide who I want to be in response to my missed opportunities.

  8. Made a list of all persons we had harmed, and became willing to make amends to them all.

    I am acknowledging all the invitations I made to others inviting them to participate in my self-abuse and am making myself available to share with them the full extent of my participation in these processes.

  9. Made direct amends to such people wherever possible, except when to do so would injure them or others.

    I am inviting others to hear my truth about my past unconscious thoughts/behavior, if they choose to listen.

  10. Continued to take personal inventory and when we were wrong promptly admitted it.

    I am continuing to be mindful of the choices I make in relation to others and in acknowledging and admitting, to myself and others, the choices that are leading me toward my highest positive intention.

  11. Sought through prayer and meditation to improve our conscious contact with God, as we understood Him, praying only for knowledge of His will for us and the power to carry that out.

    I am deciding to continue to commit to my journey of mindfulness and to my continued connectedness with my higher consciousness.

  12. Having had a spiritual awakening as the result of these steps, we tried to carry this message to alcoholics and to practice these principles in all our affairs.

    While moving toward higher consciousness in my relationship with everything, I am deciding to share my experiences with others as a way of fulfilling the cycle of receiving and sharing, and thus experience fulfillment in my life as I invite others to experience fulfillment in theirs.


    Another Perspective on Addiction
    Don Hadlock’s revised excerpts from Abraham-Hicks Publications

    Each of us has a stream of energy flowing through us that sustains us in our physical universe. When we allow it to flow, we experience feeling good. This allowing is our natural state and leads to a high-energy flow.

    When we restrict that flow, we feel unease.

    Some of the ways we restrict energy flow are by attaching to outcome, allowing negative thoughts that cut us off from this high energy, and by joining the restricted flow of others. These processes diminish our connection to our energy flow. This results in feeling the void of joy, the void of clarity, the void of energy, and the void of life. And it is a void we try to fill when we indulge our addtictions. Our addictions distract us from the voids we have created in our life. Distraction disallows our awareness of energy flow restriction. Distraction creates an illusion of greater energy flow; we immediately feel better (high), because what we are addicted to is neither substance nor abuse, but the illusion of feeling better. And we have taught ourselves that the surest way to attain that illusion is to poison ourselves into numbness. We use our addiction in order not to notice the void that we would otherwise experience as our restricted life.

    Substances become one way to facilitate feeling better, by inhibiting the restriction of our natural energy flow. It feels like it works. Temporarily. However, it is an external and dependent solution that causes physical damage.

    In our process of recovering from addictions, we must eliminate our attachment to guilt, unworthiness, and failure.

    It was those feelings that drove us to drink or drugs or to over-indulge to begin with. If we were to withdraw the addictive substance from our system, after about three days, the cells would stop calling, and the physical craving would subside, temporarily. But the reason (relief from restricted energy flow) that we went there to begin with has not been tended to. And so, very quickly, attachments to negative thoughts and perceptions, as well as living by joining the low energy flow of others will eventually re-invite us to return to that restricted energy flow. This, of course, results in the experience of unease, which motivates us to re-use substances as a remedy to these uncomfortable experiences.

    We could leave behind what we have learned about conditional love, and become a person who loves unconditionally. In order to do that, we could tell ourselves that nothing is more important than that we feel good, and then we could act from there. This could help us release attachments.

    We could appreciate, we could praise, we could point out positive aspects, we could learn about emotions so we could learn to tell the difference between how some of our thoughts or actions feel compared to how other thoughts/actions feel. We could encourage ourselves to choose the thoughts/actions that feel better. This could help us release negative thoughts leading to restriction.

    Instead of utilizing negative motivations, we could use the processes of appreciation, acceptance, and love to heal ourselves. We could encourage ourselves to find other ways to connect to our energy flow or to un-restrict our high-energy flow. We could become selfish enough not to care what somebody else thinks. We could say to a ourselves that we are perfectly all right as we are, that what we have chosen is our business only, and that we are the solution to our recovery. This could help us to stop joining the restricted energy flow of others. We could know that the greatest gift we can give others is our own sense of joy.

    Let us transcend our addictions by opening up to our energy flow instead of distracting from our restricted energy flow.

    The need for substance abuse diminishes when we feel good.

    Self-abuse, and therefore abuse to others, diminishes as we allow high-energy flow.

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